It's a New Phil, Weeks 81 and 82
Last time out, reader Gerald Hibbs wrote:
Howdy Phil,
I always notice people who have never struggled with weight saying something like, "Hey fatty, just exercise more and eat less. It isn't rocket science, you just have to have self discipline!"
Now that you have lost a good deal of weight but are stuck for a looooooong time at a plateau what do you think about this? You seem to be eating right and are certainly exercising a lot yet still aren't losing more weight! How can that be?! Is it possible that things are a little more complex?
This was driven home to me when I saw a documentary that follow people who received gastric bypass. One young girl lost a lot of weight but stuck with a plateau where she was still very overweight. Meanwhile she couldn't eat more than about 800 calories a day.
First off, people who say things like that really get on my nerves. The hardest thing about being fat -- at least in my personal experience -- isn't any of the physical stuff. It's the judgment that people will readily and willingly heap on you. I have an extremely fit friend who is similarly bothered by being told, "Yeah, well, it's easy for you," when in fact being in shape represents a lot of grueling work for her.
I don't know what it's like for anybody but me, and neither does anybody else. And for me, it's pretty hard.
Still, I don't think even a one- or two-year plateau is anything to get discouraged about. Nor would I think being stuck at 800 calories per day the end of the world. (And I should say that I'm taking in a lot more than that while maintaining my weight at the current level.) Metabolism is a highly versatile thing; if it can change in one direction, it can change in the other. It just takes patience.
Patience is key, anyway. One way or another, it took me a long time to become a 300-pound guy who was on course to be a 300-pound guy for the rest of his life. I could have become a 200-pound guy in a matter of months, but by now I might be halfway back to 300.
It is said that we live in an age in which people are able to reinvent themselves. Celebrities are noted for this, but regular folks can reinvent themselves, too. We adopt new careers, new looks, new relationships, new personal philosophies...all in pursuit of becoming new versions of ourselves. The New Phil program is a long-term project of self reinvention.
I knew from the start that, in order to work, it had to be more than a matter of making superficial or temporary behavioral changes in pursuit of some numerical goal. I've been down that road lots of times, with what could be a called a spotty record of success. But even that would be a pretty generous assessment. In all honesty, every one of those earlier attempts was an abject failure. The real motivation behind starting any diet or exercise program would have always been to go from being a fat guy to being a thin guy. And yet, a year and a half ago, I was still (or once again) a fat guy.
The earlier attempts didn't work, because on some level I didn't expect them to. The truth is, I believe that going from being a thin guy to being a fat guy is just about the hardest thing in the world. As much as I would have liked to have done it over the last 30 years or so, I never found a way to make it happen. Every diet I went on, I did it with my fingers crossed, fully expecting – even if I wouldn't admit it openly – that sooner or later I would once again be eating the way I wanted to. The stark calculus that said there was no world in which I could eat that way and also be a thin guy never got through.
So the primary thing I've been working on these many months is getting it through my head that if I want a different life, I have to become, in a very real sense, a different person. That's why it's called "It's a New Phil." What I eat, and when and how I eat it – along with how much exercise I get – these are all secondary. The real work is changing what I believe about who I am. It takes a long time, but I'm getting there.
That's why a long period of very little movement on the scale is not a matter of much concern to me. Every week in which I haven't started back up towards 300 is an assertion that I really have changed the way my body works and have made some progress on those fundamental beliefs about myself. So maybe now I see myself as a 230-pound guy. When I weigh in at or around 230 pounds, is that a problem?
Nope. It's a cause for celebration.
Sure, I want to go farther than I have, but that requires – above all – that I have once and for all put away the old beliefs and expectations. Even staying at 230 requires a constant struggle between the old beliefs and the new. (With things like metabolic changes adding to the challenge.) But the fact that my weight doesn't start back up means that the physiological changes are setting in and the new beliefs are starting to hold their own.
Moreover, it proves that when I'm good and ready, I can also change how my body works, along with my beliefs and expectations, to those of a New Phil who weighs 197, 187, 175 – whatever I decide the final answer is.
It's a New Phil, Week 18
It's a New Phil, Week 19
I was on vacation during week 21 and did not post an entry, but thanks for noticing the blank space!
No entry for week 41.
It's a New Phil, Weeks 54 and 55
Comments
Phil:
I would bet that being Singularity-aware is a part of your power to do this.
You understand that the world will change completely and abruptly this century. You, of course, will be able to be as fit as you want to be after that event.
In preparation Singularity-aware people tend to adapt a certain... flexibility. Flexibility in how they see the world AND themselves. That flexibility can give your power to do things like remake your body even now.
Posted by: Stephen Gordon
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August 13, 2007 10:54 AM
Losing weight really is as simple as exercise more and consume fewer calories. It amazes me how many people don't want to accept that basic fact. That does not mean losing weight is easy though. I am 5'8" and know how to dunk a basketball. It is simple. I can't do it but it is very simple. You just jump high enough so that your hands are higher than the hoop and put the ball through. In younger days I could dunk on a good day but it is not really an option anymore. Yao Ming, on the other hand, can dunk pretty easily and will be able to do so for a long time.
But the fact remains, if anyone wants to lose weight they just have to consume fewer calories than they burn.
Posted by: Ross the Heartless Conservative
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August 13, 2007 01:48 PM
Thanks for the reply Phil.
As to Ross, I think you make my point. Some people really are metaphorically 5'8" trying to dunk a basketball. It is more complex and mysterious than many people allow for yet our culture over simplifies and casts negative aspersions on the overweight. When someone has trouble learning to read we give extra help. If someone has psychological problems we are moving to less stigma and more help available. When someone has a weight problem, well it is all their own fault and those lazy gluttons got what they deserved. This has, I think, lead to unfortunate outcomes like "Fat Acceptance" groups as a defensive reaction.
If you read the various science sites you will see research where they measured caloric burn of obese people walking. The amount of energy expended was lower than expected as, apparently, the people were walking in a more efficient manner than thin people. Then we see other research showing that genetics plays a part -- perhaps a significant part -- in determining weight from a variety of mechanisms.
Personally, I am living in China and eating mostly farm fresh vegetables but if I exercise less than about 30 minutes a day I gain weight. To lose weight I need to exercise more than an hour a day. When I was at my "ideal weight" I was exercising several hours a day.
When I was younger and more foolish I couldn't get it through my head that I had some areas that things were easier for me but things like maintaining a healthy weight were inherently very difficult. It wasn't helped by people assuming that I was eating more and exercising less than they and the problem was my self discipline.
I think we are beginning to have a better undestanding that it is much more complex and that many people just got a bad roll on the genetic dice and need to work harder than other people to get the same results. Now that I understand that, life is much easier. The practical outcome, for me, is to incorporate exercise into my lifestyle at the very base. For example I have a treadmill by the televsion so that I can relax mentally watching "Lost" or "Heroes" yet burn some more calories and boost my metabolism.
No one can/should compare themselves to others. If you want to achieve a goal you will see many people who can achieve it more easily than you and those people will usually have areas where their innate abilities are less than yours. You must learn to count your blessings and overcome your own obstacles. And when you see someone stuggling to learn math, socialize, maintain a healthy weight, etc etc etc it would be wise to assume a "There but for the grace of God go I" attitude and refrain from a judgemental attitude.
I have reached the point where I agree with Future Pundit's Randall Parker: more and more science shows the limits of free will and just how much of who and what we are is determined by our genes.
Posted by: Gerald Hibbs
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August 14, 2007 12:39 AM
Gerald,
I think that we agree but we are discussing two different things.
My contention is that anyone can lose weight but it is a lot harder for some people than it is for others.
Your point, society should not look down upon those who are overweight because some people will always be overweight absent extreme calarie depravation.
Around the edges we probably disagree a little because I believe that being overweight is unhealthy and thus a little social stigma is a good thing for the fast majority of people who can manage their weight with a little effort.
Part of my own personal bias is driven by my wife's family. Her sisters are rather large and frequently make comments about how lucky my wife is to be so skinny. My wife exercises a lot and does not eat much. Her sisters eat a lot and avoid exercise.
I am pretty callow and I don't really care that they are fat. It does irritates me that they want to constantly whine about being fat.
I do conceed the fact that I was blessed with a fast metabolism and losing weight is fairly easy for me though.
Regards,
Posted by: Ross the Heartless Conservative
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August 15, 2007 03:12 PM
Ross --
Around the edges we probably disagree a little because I believe that being overweight is unhealthy and thus a little social stigma is a good thing for the fast majority of people who can manage their weight with a little effort.
Hmmm... How, precisely, is it that you know how easy or difficult it is for the majority of people? You can assume that it's a certain way for me, or your annoying sisters-in-law, or for "people in general," but that's just your assumption.
As for the positive benefits of a social stigma, color me unconvinced. The trouble with the social stigma is that it's entirely superficial and doesn't necessarily direct people towards healthier behaviors. It is just as likely to push them in the direction of fad diets and eating disorders -- which are much more unhealthy than being overweight. Our entire diet industry -- a vastly unhealthy enterprise -- emanates from that social stigma.
Posted by: Phil Bowermaster
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August 15, 2007 03:41 PM